Book Announcement - Enter the Dom: The No BS Book on Dominance

Announcing my upcoming book Enter the Dom: The No BS Book on Dominance

When I started my journey as a Dom years ago I was utterly disheartened by the fact that there was not very much high quality, educational content available for actually discerning what it meant to be a Dom. It’s one thing to say “earn her respect” and it’s another entirely to know HOW to actually do that, boots on the ground, physically taking action. 

So as any young man does in this day and age, I turned to scouring the depths of the internet, searching random websites and forums trying to find people who could actually give me some step by step guidance. I was lucky enough to meet Mario Tubone (due to having a career as a corporate pirate, he keeps a low profile) on an obscure internet forum shortly after my divorce, a man who had over a decades worth of experience with submissive women and BDSM scenes across multiple countries during his travels. He gave me guidance not so much on the how-to’s of wielding a flogger, because those technical skills can be learned at any good local workshop or enough YouTube videos, but the mindsets and behaviors that it took to actually BE a Dom, not just roleplay as one.

Mario had been contemplating writing a book for many years detailing the principles and lessons he learned during his experiences. After having watched my journey from a fledgling Dom, and seeing the writing I had begun publishing, he approached me with an offer to coauthor a book with him. So since November of last year, we’ve been silently putting words on digital paper, somewhere in upwards of 75-90k, jam packed with everything we thought would help.

We set out with one mission in mind: write the book we wish we had when we started. 

In my double agent life, I also started a non-profit in higher education. I wholeheartedly believe in the power of education to change not only one’s life, but the world. So I try to use the same knowledge and skills I’ve learned about pedagogy and teaching to structure my writing in a way that people can actually understand and apply these concepts to their life. 

This same attention to structural detail is exactly what we’ve done with this book. We’ve tried to outline the beliefs, principles, and tangible skills you’ll need to learn to become a powerful Dom, not just in the bedroom, but every facet of your life. To Mario and I, Dominance is not just a role you step into, it's a way of living.

Being a Dom starts long before entering the bedroom, long before learning technical skills, and long before courting a submissive woman. You have to master yourself before you can be a master of another person.

Some people believe that Dominance is something you're born with and can't be learned. Excuse my language, but that’s bullshit. Almost everything about being a Dom can be learned, even the pieces of inner Dominance that are going to make a submissive woman actually feel your Dominance and make her think you're a natural.

So we decided to write Enter the Dom: The No BS Book on Dominance.

In Section 1, you will hear the stories of how Mario and l came to wanting to become Doms. Then you’ll learn a concise definition of what Dominance is. 

Section 2 will then help you to develop your inner Dominance by detailing the specific traits and mental beliefs you need to master in yourself and have women wanting to submit to you. 

Section 3 will then help you to develop your outer Dominance including the techniques and hands on skills you’ll need in order to demonstrate your Dominance in the real world and have relationships with submissive women.

Along the way, you'll have examples, exercises, and detailed steps for even the most esoteric seeming of tasks like how to actually develop confidence (because faking it till you make it just doesn’t cut it as a Dom). Plus some spicy, erotic stories from our experiences to demonstrate these principles in action.

Here’s what to expect:

Section 1: Dominance

• Chapter 1: Essence of a Dominant Life
• Chapter 2: What is Dominance?

Section 2: Inner Dominance - Become the Man She’ll Submit To

• Chapter 3: Dominance as a Mental Set of Beliefs
• Chapter 4: Leadership
• Chapter 5: Power
• Chapter 6: Strength
• Chapter 7: Awareness
• Chapter 8: Confidence
• Chapter 9: Love

Section 3: Outer Dominance - Developing the Skills of a Good Dom

• Chapter 10: Decide What You Want
• Chapter 11: Consent
• Chapter 12: Communication
• Chapter 13: Shame Breaking
• Chapter 14: Sexual Dominance
• Chapter 15: Finding a Submissive
• Chapter 16: D/s Dynamics

Section 4: Mastering Dominance

• Chapter 17: Integrating and Giving Back to the World

We’re aiming for being fully published by mid-April, first with the hard and digital copies, then later with the audio version. In the meantime, you can download two free chapters - Chapter 1: Essence of a Dominant Life and Chapter 8: Confidence - while you wait for the final book! In the months leading up to the launch, we’ll drop another chapter from Section 3.

For anyone who has taken the time to read my material before and left a comment or messaged me, I truly appreciate you. It means the world to me to know when my content has helped you in some way. My hope for this book is that it helps you step into your power, build deeply fulfilling Dom/ sub relationships, and have the kinky sex you crave. So go get the two free chapters and start developing your Dominance today.

Much love. 

Brandon The Dom