Face Fucking Guide: Techniques and Positions for Aggressive Oral Sex

Learn techniques and positions for safely and pleasurably engaging in face fucking and other types of aggressive oral sex.

Oral sex is pretty great. Giving it, receiving it, it’s just a grand ol’ time. 

For those who enjoy rough sex or BDSM power play, traditional oral sex can be turned up a few notches to become face fucking. This article will take you through how to (safely) fuck your partner’s face and make it pleasurable for the both of you.

Blowjob vs Deep throating vs Face Fucking vs Throat Fucking

Let’s first distinguish the difference between a blowjob, deep throating, face fucking, and throat fucking. While all of these involve oral sex, the difference between them is a matter of who is in control and the depth to which the man is penetrating the woman’s mouth.

A blowjob is an oral sex act that she does to you - she’s giving pleasure, and you’re receiving it. She is mostly in control of the movement and depth of her actions, you’re just enjoying the show. A blowjob can be calm, wet, sloppy, include hand strokes, and may involve a bit of gagging and teasing.

Deep throating is just like a blowjob in that it’s an oral sex act she does to you and she is in control. The difference is now she’s pushing your cock to the back of her mouth and throat, attempting to take it all in. 

Face fucking is an aggressive oral sex act that you do to her - you’re taking your own pleasure, and she’s allowing it to happen. You’re in control of thrusting and depth of penetration, and her mouth is being used. Face fucking is typically not calm, not gentle, typically doesn’t involve any hand action and will likely involve gagging. Key to face fucking is that you’re only penetrating in the mouth, not pushing towards the back of the throat.

Throat fucking is just like face fucking in that it is an aggressive oral sex act that you do to her and you’re in control. The difference is now you’re penetrating fully into her mouth and into her throat. 

What we’ll discuss today is how to face fuck and throat fuck, as it’s only a matter of depth that seperate the two.

Why do people enjoy face fucking

Like any erotic act, the reasons that people enjoy face fucking contain multitudes and it’s worth exploring your own erotic mind to find out what it is about face fucking that turns you on so much.

Some common reasons include:

• Expression of Dominance and submission: With face fucking, the power roles become very apparent. The man is very much in the Dominant position, with all the control, and with an attitude of “I’m going to use your holes to satisfy myself with little regard for you.” She then takes the submissive role and only purpose in that moment is to be used for his pleasure.
• Degradation: Depending on the intention behind it and what other acts may be involved, such as certain dirty talk, lots of spit, potential for puking, and facials, the submissive can feel used and degraded.
• Pain: If face fucking is done too hard too fast, it can be painful for the submissive, which for some, might be enjoyable and arousing to both the Dom and submissive.
• Rough sex: Others just enjoy adding it to their rough sex forays. Sometimes you want slow and seductive, other times you want fast and hard. 

How to Face Fuck

Risks

As with most things in BDSM, as you ramp up the intensity, you also ramp up the risk profile. 

Here are some risks you should be aware of:

• Pain: Unless your submissive specifically wants to feel pain, you should try to avoid this (especially if you ever want her to enjoy face fucking). Always start slow and shallow in order to warm her up for more vigorous thrusting. If you don’t allow time for her mouth to relax, you’re going to cause pain. If there is too much pain and discomfort, you need to take a break before you damage any part of the mouth or jaw.
• Dislocated jaw: You’d need some serious thrusting and angle to do this, but it's not impossible. What’s more likely is causing a lot of soreness to her jaw if she’s not used to keeping it open and you're ramming her face, rather than thrusting in and out.
• Psychological: Depending on how she feels about being “used” as a submissive, proper aftercare should be taken to remind her of what she really means to you.

Positions

These are not all the positions (I’ve seen quite creative ones) but they’ll be the most common and accessible to you.

Him on top

Basically the missionary position with him straddled over her chest and cock close to her mouth.

She will lay on her back. Then, you’ll straddle her chest, and place your knees just under the armpit. To make this easier on her, she can wrap her arms around your legs, allowing the inner sides of your legs to be around her ribcage area. She is in a very submissive position and essentially trapped beneath you.

You can prop her head up with a pillow or you can lean over her, placing your hands on the bed just above her head while you thrust. You can also easily grab ahold of the back of her head or hair for added leverage if you want to take things up a notch.

On her knees

A staple position for receiving a blowjob, making it easy for you to take control of the action and begin thrusting, rather than her moving her head. 

She will be on her knees and you will be standing in front of her. In order to get a good flow of motion, you may need to hold her head, possibly doing a little hair pulling as you go. If you want to be kind, put something soft down like a plush pillow or blanket for her knees because she’s likely to rub them on the ground as you thrust and hard surfaces or carpet doesn’t feel good. 

Against the wall

Similar to on her knees, except now she is squatting or sitting on something while leaning her back against the wall. This position will sandwich her head between the wall and your pelvis. Be mindful of the back of her head hitting the wall and use your hand either behind her head to cushion, or on top of her head to stabilize and not recoil as you thrust.

If she’s squatting, then she will be strained while holding the position, something that can be used for added effect in degradation play, punishment, or slave training. 

Dangling head off the bed

Have her lay on her back, with her head dangling off the edge of the bed. The base of her neck should be resting against the edge of the mattress. You stand up next to her so that your cock is level with her mouth. You can grab hold of her waist for leverage and she can bend her knees to stabilize herself from the force of your thrusts.

This is by far the easiest position if you’re looking for deep-throat oral sex because the muscles in her throat are more relaxed and aligned with the angle of her mouth, just like a sword swallower. Her gag reflex is also less likely to be triggered this way. 

One of the reasons this is my favorite position for face fucking is because you now have access to the rest of her body. You can grab her breasts, play with her nipples, stimulate her clit, or use a magic wand on her.

Sixty-Nine

Take one of your classic 69 positions and turn it up a notch.

If she’s on top, you can bend your knees a bit and place your hands on the back of her head to begin thrusting and taking control of the movements.

If you’re on top, you can begin thrusting her hips while she is laying on her back, similar to the “Him on Top” position, but just facing the other way, which now gives you access to her to stimulate.

Putting it into practice

Remember your goal

Before you start engaging in face fucking, remember what your goal is for the scene and what intention you have behind face fucking. Going hard, rough, and degrading can be one vibe. While slow, controlled, and with intense eye contact reminding her is in control can be another.

Start slow

This is by far the most important principle to face fucking because if you go too hard, too deep, too fast, it’s going to hurt her. She needs time to get used to the motions of her cock going in and out of her mouth, especially since she doesn’t have control.

Start by letting her have control and giving you a blowjob. Let her suck slowly and get used to your cock. Let her feel comfortable. Build trust. No hands on head or grabbing of hair yet.

After you've gotten that trust going and her mouth is physically used to sucking your cock, you can start to take control and begin face fucking. Just start with the head in and out slowly. Let her get used to that depth before going in further.

Keep incrementally inserting your cock until you reach the point where she feels like she needs to gag. Stop and pull out some to give her a moment to recover. You’ve now found the range to face fuck her. You can reinsert your cock and begin to pick up the pace within this range.

Going deep

If you want to transition to throat fucking, it’s only a matter of depth. However, she is going to need some throat training in order for her to gain mastery over her gag reflex.

To practice, slowly see how much of your cock she can take before feeling like she really needs to gag. Then stop and go back to something else like a handjob, sucking or shallow face fucking.

Then slowly push to that same point. Every time you do this, she’ll get more comfortable with taking you a little more in her throat, eventually being able to take it all the way to the back of her throat.

What’s important is that she is willing and ready to be able to take your cock that deep. So before you can ever get more vigorous thrusts, she needs the proper training and warm up. Otherwise it’s going to really hurt her if it's forced and she’s not ready.

Give her breaks

She should be breathing out of her nose while you’re face fucking but, if you’re going deep, it can still make it difficult for her to breathe. As such, it’s vital that you take frequent breaks to let her catch her breath every few seconds.

What makes a girl puke? Continual face fucking that's too deep. Non-stop face fucking can be really uncomfortable, unpleasant, and painful. 

Non verbal safewords

It’s going to be pretty difficult for her to use a safeword if things are getting too intense when her mouth is little occupied. 

When she needs a break, have her use her hands to push back on you to tell you to stop face fucking her. You could have her pat your legs twice when she’s entirely done. 

Incorporate bondage

Depending on the position you use, you can incorporate bondage gear. For example, you can restrain her hands behind her back when she is on her knees, restrain her hands above her head while you’re on top, or lift her legs up and restrain her hands underneath them while her head dangles off the bed and make her hold a magic wand while you face fuck her (this is an advanced position as it’s now removing hand gestures for safewords and requires greater attention and breaks to make sure she’s still ok).

Her pleasure

Just because you’re getting all your pleasure, doesn’t mean she can’t get a little bit too. Consider inserting a hands-free vibrator or plug in her while you use her mouth. Additionally, some of the positions listed above allow you to stimulate her while you face fuck her.

Finish

If you take the face fucking to completion, you can easily finish by cumming down her throat, which bypasses the taste buds for those that don’t enjoy the taste, or by cumming on her face or chest.

Tips for the submissive being face fucked

Just because you’re not the one in control in this situation does not mean there is nothing you can do to make this experience significantly better for the both of you.

Tips for the submissive:

• Eye contact: Eye contact turns up the eroticism of oral sex up ten fold. Don’t be afraid to let your eyes meet his.
• Wetter is better: Use lots and lots and lots of saliva. Fucking drool on that cock if you can. If you’re throat fucking, saliva might not be enough, so you might want to use an edible lube.
• Use your hand: If you want to keep to just face fucking with no throat action, use your hand as a buffer. While he’s fucking your face, wrap your hand around the base of his shaft.
• Use your tongue: Your tongue is a fabulous tool. If you lift the back of your tongue it provides a barrier for the cock so that it doesn't go down further. Then the guy also feels a bit like he's bottoming out too.
• Saving your jaw: You can open your jaw a little less if you wrap your lips around your teeth. Again, you need a lot of saliva for this. Also, don't open your jaw towards the front as it will make it hurt later. Open your jaw naturally swinging backwards.
• Overcoming your gag reflex: Get good at deep throating, with you in control of the motions, before having him throat fuck you.
• Puking: Some people enjoy this. If both of you do, first do it by testing your own boundaries first, making yourself puke during deep throating. It won’t be painful and you’ll both know if you enjoy it. Then if you do, you can let him push you to that point during throat fucking.

A hole to be used like any other

Face fucking can be an act of High Dominance that really polarizes the Dominant/ submissive dynamic or just enjoyed during times when you want things a little more rough. Now that you know how to face fuck properly, drop into your rough sex tool kit with other acts like spanking, choking, manhandling, biting and hair pulling.