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Orgasm Control: So Much More Than Edging

Curious about taking pleasure to the next level? Discover how orgasm control goes far beyond edging, exploring techniques like forced orgasms and orgasm denial to create intense connection, arousal, and submission.

Do You Want a Dom, a Top, or Just Some Rough Sex?

Do you actually want a Dom, a Top, or just rough sex? Many people use the word "Dominant" without defining their desires, leading to frustration and disappointment. Learn the differences between rough sex, kinky play with a skilled Top, and power exchange with a Dom—helping you clarify what you want and communicate it effectively.

Face Slapping During Sex Guide: Techniques & Risks

Learn how to safely slap your partner in the face during sex to increase pleasure and polarize power play.

BDSM Rewards for Submissives

Has your submissive been a good girl? Need a way to encourage and appreciate her for her efforts? Learn about BDSM rewards for submissives including the 5 principles of rewards, the different systems and levels of rewards, and different types of rewards with examples.

BDSM Punishments for Submissives

Has your submissive broken a rule? Need a way to correct her behavior? Learn about BDSM punishments for submissives including the 7 principles of punishments, the different levels of punishment and how to choose the correct one, and different types of punishments with examples.

Cockwarming Guide: How to Engage in A Sexy, Simple Act of Service

Want to learn a sexy, simple pass-time to incorporate in your D/s dynamic? Try Cockwarming.

Two Must-Ask Questions for Better Sex

These two deceptively simple questions will change your sex life and drastically improve your chances of finding fulfillment in your pleasure.

Face Fucking Guide: Techniques and Positions for Aggressive Oral Sex

Learn techniques and positions for safely and pleasurably engaging in face fucking and other types of aggressive oral sex.

Biting During Sex Guide: Tips & Techniques

Learn how to safely bite your partner during sex to increase pleasure, eroticism, and primal energy.

Book Announcement - Enter the Dom: The No BS Book on Dominance

Announcing my upcoming book Enter the Dom: The No BS Book on Dominance

Hair Pulling During Sex Guide: Tips & Techniques

Learn how to properly pull someone's hair during sex to make it a pleasurable experience rather than a painful one.

Not All DDlg is the Same: How to Enjoy DDlg without Ageplay

Curious about DDlg or Daddy Dom/ little girl dynamics in BDSM buy not sure about ageplay? Learn some misconceptions about DDlg, the psychology of someone who might enjoy it, and ways to experience without ageplay.

How to Deal with Sub drop Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally

Feeling down or out of energy after your intense BDSM scene? You're likely experiencing sub drop. This article will highlight what sub drop is and how to remedy it physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Brat Tamer: The Secret to Taming Brat Submissives

Have a bratty submissive on your hands? Learn the secret to taming brats, effective strategies and mindsets for being a brat tamer, and example punishments for brats.

Manhandling Guide: Techniques & Tips for Rougher Sex & BDSM Play

Learn how to manhandle your submissive in the bedroom so she can feel your Dominance and intensify her pleasure in sex and BDSM play.

Erotic Choking Guide: Safer Techniques for Sex and BDSM Play

Learn the risks and considerations for engaging in erotic choking and how to safely incorporate it into sex.

BDSM Spanking Guide: Tips, Techniques, and Positions for Erotic Spanking

Learn the best techniques and positions for delivering an unforgettable spanking experience for your submissive.

What You Should Know About Consent in BDSM

Learn about consent in BDSM and the various models of consent including implied, express, and informed consent, plus the undervalued Wheel of Consent model.

Dom Sub Contract: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic (Free Template)

Ready to take your D/s dynamic to the next level? This guide will walk you step by step through structuring your D/s dynamic using a Dom sub contract, sometimes referred to as a slave contract or BDSM contract, complete with rules, rituals, protocols, punishments, and a structure that suits your reality and makes space for both of your needs and desires.

How to Be Submissive: 14 Steps to Becoming a Submissive Woman

Ladies, do you want to become a submissive? This complete guide to becoming a submissive woman will lead you through 14 steps on your submissive journey from understanding yourself, getting in touch with your emotions and desires, and finding a Dom you respect and can fully surrender to.

Relationship Check In Questions for Dominant/Submissive Couples

Want a way to keep a regular pulse on your dynamic? With these relationship check in questions you'll be able to express gratitude, address problems, uncover needs and desires, and improve both sides of the slash so that you have a healthy, loving, and thriving dynamic.

A Complete Guide to Dirty Talk for Subs

Want to up your dirty talk game as a submissive? This guide will you show you easy to use frameworks for praise, observations, requests, fantasy, begging, being owner, and self degradation, with dozens of examples of submissive dirty talk you can use in the bedroom and invite your Dom to take you.

How To Make Him More Dominant in the Bedroom

Wishing your man would be more dominant in the bedroom? Use these 5 easy steps rooted in his psychology to help encourage him and draw out that strong, masculine Dominance you have been craving.

Subspace: What Every Submissive Needs to Know About This Drug Like State

Want to know what subspace is? This article will walk you through this altered state of consciousness, why it happens (and feels so great!), how to get into subspace, dangers and risks to watch out for, and how to transition out of subspace to avoid subdrop.

8 BDSM Tasks to Give Your Submissive to Help Them Grow

Looking for tasks to give your submissive? Use these 8 types of BDSM tasks for improving your D/s dynamic, helping your submissive grow, and having a lot of sexy fun along the way!

What is a Good Submissive: 7 Essential Behaviors for Submissives

Want to know the behaviors that make good submissives? Generally, a submissive is a person who willingly consents to relinquish control, authority, and decision-making to their Dominant partner. Submissives take on the role of being obedient, compliant, and responsive to the wishes and desires of their Dominant within the agreed-upon boundaries of the relationship. A bottom is someone who has the skills to receive acts from another person. But again, being submissive is the why and the intention behind those acts. So what makes a good submissive?